Anger Control

Typed by Amalina Fitri on 23.5.09

Assalamualaikum.

I felt really angry at someone the other day and basically told him that I hated him. I got over it the next day and decided to just forget all about the guy and move on with my life. Tapinya udah atu, I felt kinda of guilty.

What right have I to be angry at another person?? I'm not perfect.. Semua jua urang buat salah, whether they realize it or not.. I always hate it when people get angry over stupid reasons. Inda ku tau lah a kalau sebab ku kan marah atu talur kah inda a.

People always get angry over unnecessary things. Sometimes it's just part of their nature. Aku nada hak kan bagi apa2 komen arah durang. What they do is none of my business. All I can do is to deal with the situation as best as I can.. Macam keluar topik plang aku ni... =.="

Anyway, my question is, cana kita kan tau alasan kita untuk marah atu reasonable atau inda? The problem is that everyone has different beliefs of what is accounted as reasonable and what is not.. And who's to say which is right?? Ada kita cakap tu nanti, "Skadar jua ya marah ani eh.." But maybe for that person, it's a perfectly reasonable reason to be angry.

All we can do is to learn to control our anger... But then again, kadang-kadang urang inda sadar yang ya tu marah.. Ugh.. So confusing~ T__T

So, here's a few tips to help you to control your emotions if you think you've got a real bad temper... Credits for these techniques - apa.org

i. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; benafas dari dada is not relaxing. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."

ii. Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Cakap balik2 sambil benafas dalam2..

iii. Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, samaada dari ingatan atau imaginasi...

iv. Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. (Ooo... Religious cult!! XD)

Usually, angry people tend to curse a lot with plenty of colourful language. You get overly dramatic in your thoughts. Here's another tip from the same website:

instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."
Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).

Sentiasa ingat ni: "Every problem has a solution".. Marah2 ganya won't solve the problem and you know it too...

"Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways... When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like... Do this whenever a name comes into your head about another person... This will take a lot of the edge off your fury; and humor can always be relied on to help unknot a tense situation.

Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses can keep them from making you even more unhappy in the long run.

This totally made me feel better... Lol... Thank goodness for blogs~

Assalamualaikum ;)

 

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