Relationship: Halal or Haram?

Typed by Amalina Fitri on 6.7.10

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! XDD

Sorry lol... Had to start my post with that..

I always check my blog before I put up any new posts and I immediately saw Zhenwei's picture, he's so cute so I had to laugh hahaha!

Anyway, I feel guilty for including that due to the nature of what I'm actually planning to write on.. Lol.. Sorry.

Hmm.. I don't know why but for some reason lately I keep bumping into these articles about whether having a relationship prior to marriage was halal or haram so I decided to write about it now.

So, most of the articles that I found say that having a relationship is haram because of what it can lead to... I totally get that.. Some people say, "Inda papa tu... Nada kami buat apa2 kali ah.." But you never know, right..

The thing is that we don't realize the sin we can commit just using our eyes, our tongue, and our intentions. One of the articles that I read said that it's okay to have a relationship if you can blind your eyes, blind your tongue, and blind your intentions from any kind of maksiat.. But that's kind of hard to do, don't you think?

I mean, what would that even mean exactly? Blind your eyes from looking at his appearance, because you're either mesmerized by his good looks or you're judging him based on appearance. But how can you avoid that?

Blind your tongue. I'm not even sure what that means. What is it that we say to our 'significant other' that we shouldn't be saying at all? I'm not even sure.

As for blinding our intentions, well, I suppose that's clear enough.. What is our intention in having a relationship with the other person? Isn't the main point of marriage is to either avoid doing any sins by doing it only with your husband/wife or to have 'eyelight' (cahaya mata XD)?

For the first reason, to avoid performing acts of sin, um, I suppose you don't have to be choosy for that.. Lol. I mean, entah.. Hahaha I'm not entirely sure what that actually means. I mean, entah.. Err.. I'm terrible at explaining myself =.="

As for the second reason, you need to make sure that you're choosing the right person to have children with, the right person who you believe will be a good father/mother to your children. But how would you even know that? You would need to make sure that you will have a good relationship with the other person in order to ensure a healthy childhood for your children..

Actually, you know what? I just solved my own problem, lol!

My point in this post was to ask how a person would know that another person would be a good partner in marriage without having a relationship prior to that..

My answer to my own question would be that being friends would be enough to know. After all, as friends, you're less likely to try to impress the other with attributes that you don't even have.

I think that you'd be more honest with a friend than with a boyfriend, you can trust a friend more because they wouldn't have much reason to betray you as long as you treat them right.

Having a boyfriend doesn't ensure happiness, after all. You're always worried about him going off with some other girl...

With a friend, you have no such worries because you don't put restraints on the other.

Wow, why didn't I think of this before? Lol! I don't even know if I'm putting my point across clearly enough for anyone else to understand..

The main point is that I understand myself wahaha~

 

2 Comments:

  1. Miss LL said...
    July 8, 2010 at 11:09 AM  
    ahahah wahh taking a big step are we now? hahaha mula2 cari nama anak now.. wheeee apa ni? ada calon udh kah?
    Amalina Fitri said...
    July 8, 2010 at 2:31 PM  
    hahaha dari taun lapas kali tu ah nama anak saya atu... malas ku becalon ee.. biar tia natural birth!! hahaha apakan.. XP

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