*sigh*
I've been hearing a lot of stories about people not being over their exes.
Even more than one friend of mine is having trouble with this. *sigh* Bukan plang aku malas kan mendangar masalahnya ah.. It's just that I don't see why the problems have to exist in the first place.
First of all, if you got dumped, you have to try and understand their reasons for dumping you... Durang kan bebas lah.. They don't have feelings for you anymore. They found another guy/girl (stupid reason).. Etc...
Then, lapas paham banar2 udah kenapa durang putuskan atu, the next step is to GET OVER IT..
Here's a DON'T:
- Don't keep contacting them. Apatah lagi mun durang inda melayan.. It just means that they DON'T wanna be just friends. They just wanna forget you and move on..
In the case of you being the dumper, kalau kamu atu kira kan putus skajap kah saja, then make it EXTREMELY clear that that's your plan.. Make it clear that you just need time for studies or whatever it is you're leaving them for... And if THEY don't understand, well, they should've read the first part of this blog post.. Lol.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! XDD
Sorry lol... Had to start my post with that..
I always check my blog before I put up any new posts and I immediately saw Zhenwei's picture, he's so cute so I had to laugh hahaha!
Anyway, I feel guilty for including that due to the nature of what I'm actually planning to write on.. Lol.. Sorry.
Hmm.. I don't know why but for some reason lately I keep bumping into these articles about whether having a relationship prior to marriage was halal or haram so I decided to write about it now.
So, most of the articles that I found say that having a relationship is haram because of what it can lead to... I totally get that.. Some people say, "Inda papa tu... Nada kami buat apa2 kali ah.." But you never know, right..
The thing is that we don't realize the sin we can commit just using our eyes, our tongue, and our intentions. One of the articles that I read said that it's okay to have a relationship if you can blind your eyes, blind your tongue, and blind your intentions from any kind of maksiat.. But that's kind of hard to do, don't you think?
I mean, what would that even mean exactly? Blind your eyes from looking at his appearance, because you're either mesmerized by his good looks or you're judging him based on appearance. But how can you avoid that?
Blind your tongue. I'm not even sure what that means. What is it that we say to our 'significant other' that we shouldn't be saying at all? I'm not even sure.
As for blinding our intentions, well, I suppose that's clear enough.. What is our intention in having a relationship with the other person? Isn't the main point of marriage is to either avoid doing any sins by doing it only with your husband/wife or to have 'eyelight' (cahaya mata XD)?
For the first reason, to avoid performing acts of sin, um, I suppose you don't have to be choosy for that.. Lol. I mean, entah.. Hahaha I'm not entirely sure what that actually means. I mean, entah.. Err.. I'm terrible at explaining myself =.="
As for the second reason, you need to make sure that you're choosing the right person to have children with, the right person who you believe will be a good father/mother to your children. But how would you even know that? You would need to make sure that you will have a good relationship with the other person in order to ensure a healthy childhood for your children..
Actually, you know what? I just solved my own problem, lol!
My point in this post was to ask how a person would know that another person would be a good partner in marriage without having a relationship prior to that..
My answer to my own question would be that being friends would be enough to know. After all, as friends, you're less likely to try to impress the other with attributes that you don't even have.
I think that you'd be more honest with a friend than with a boyfriend, you can trust a friend more because they wouldn't have much reason to betray you as long as you treat them right.
Having a boyfriend doesn't ensure happiness, after all. You're always worried about him going off with some other girl...
With a friend, you have no such worries because you don't put restraints on the other.
Wow, why didn't I think of this before? Lol! I don't even know if I'm putting my point across clearly enough for anyone else to understand..
The main point is that I understand myself wahaha~
I watched The Karate Kid on Wednesday.
I mentioned in my last post that I went out with my friends.
That is what we did.. We watched a movie. The Karate Kid..
I hadn't wanted to watch it initially. I kept hearing bad reviews about it..
But it had been the birthday girl's wish so I just went along with it.. Ain't I sweet? XP
Anyway, I so did not regret watching it.. I fell in love with Dre's (the main character) counterpart, Cheng.
Cheng, who's real name is Zhenwei Wang, is so cute. And so hot doing all the kung fu stunts, the kicks and so on..
Fad didn't get it though.. Either it's because she's not that into Chinese people like I am, or she's just biased cause his character was bad in the movie.
He was kinda scary in the competition though.. Kinda like this fighting monster that wouldn't stop until it completely destroyed whatever it was fighting.
But Zhenwei was so hot doing it.. Lol!! I don't care what you say. I know he's like 14 or 15. And I know I'm 19... And I don't care if you call me a cougar for it..
What did Jacob say in the second Twilight Saga? "Age is just a number, baby." HAHA! And I don't know what it is about numbers that turn people off anyway.
Just because a guy is older than you doesn't make him more mature. And just because a guy is younger than you, it doesn't make him less experienced.. You never know, you might be surprised at the great potential you turn down because of his age.
Sorry for the ranting. Was just talking about this with mom this afternoon after watching the iklan for Cougar Town lol...
Anywho, my point is that Zhenwei, regardless of his age and race, is totally cute and was pretty hot when he did the chopping kick. And if he was 19, I'd love him even more. ;D
I miss doing the chopping kick. I took tae kwon do lessons when I was in Form 3 with my cousins. My kick wasn't perfect but I could definitely kick higher then compared to know. I could even almost do the split.. Instead, just last year, I sent my sensei, or senpai or whatever lol, flying during one of our karate sessions. *sigh* Miss the old days.
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